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Perspective: “Not too bad”

Everyday phrases are stated without thought. Unless I am around. I tend to “force” a bit of thought onto people and so far, not only, has it gone unchallenged; I have converted some people to my side of the thought fence regarding said phrase “Not too bad”.

“Hey there, how’re you today?” – I would ask.
“Not too bad”- respondent adds by DEFAULT

“Oh, I’m sorry to hear that” I state and they perk up confused, “I hope things start getting better for you.” – I conclude.

By this point the other person is confused and unsure of what just happened. This lights my mood some more because the confusion means that now they’re paying attention and ready to receive input.

“Well, you said ‘Not too bad’, which means that ‘things are bad’.” I would lightly explain with a small smile on my face. With a raised eyebrow the person usually adds their agreement and changes his/her statement of being. “I’m doing well.” or “You’re right, I am sorry. Things are pretty good. Thanks.”

The most important detail of all of this interaction, is the smile. Many people wear an unfortunate frown for most of their day. “Resting B. Face” as many have classified it. I think the one MAJOR aspect I am loving about my job is that I am known for my smile. By customers and Associates alike.

So if a customer comes in with a grumble in their heart and the expression to show it… they have a difficult time maintaining it when the get a greeting from me. When they cannot help but smile back, it lifts my spirit and gives me a strong sense of purpose. Now if only I could get paid some type of commission per smile I bring to others. I am just kidding. It fills my spiritual “bank” instead of my monetary one. Now if only Karma would start cashing my checks instead of treating me like I am so deep in debt.

Please keep a positive attitude, as best as possible anyway. It is not easy and I can say that. It really does a wonder though for those around you. It creates a type of ripple that many will not notice, but it’s a beautiful ripple to take part in.

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Steve Picks: The Beginning is Here

Steve Picks (Channel): My first and only channel at this very moment. I have never really used YouTube very much. Occasionally if I remembered an old commercial that I wanted to watch again or maybe a scene from a movie. I think my most common use was actually looking for music videos to my favorite songs.

Well now I am working on a channel of my own. I used to own the company named Steve Picks LLC. Unfortunately, my business never grew as I never found the time I should have to work on building up my future. Now Steve Picks is my Brand Name. Why? Might as well say it is my stage name or my performer name. I hope that is what another meaning for “Brand” is at this point. That was one of my, honest, assumptions anyway.

At this very moment, my start to this channel is going to be the broadcasting of some games I have on my phone. Until I can expand into other ideas. At this time, I have the permission from PikPok, Creator and Owner of Into the Dead 1 & 2, to air their games on my channel. So I have recorded one clip now. I am literally waiting for the video to fully generate so I can go through the editing stage. If that happens before I finish writing this blog, I will include it at the time that it happens. If it does not happen before I finish writing this; then you will just have to check out my channel and see how it looks (once it is posted).

I am very excited to have a channel. I just wish I had more time to post more videos. Make more videos. But also, generate some quality product that viewers will actually want to see. I haven’t received much feedback from my blog, so I have no idea if I am even on the right track. But, failing forward is one of the new techniques I am trying to learn from John C. Maxwell.

At this moment, I am still processing ideas and things to work on. So I think I will conclude this post here and start working on something else.

Thank you for your time!

That in and of itself is an amazing contribution.

 

 

 

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Technology: For Better or Worse

Today is well-known as being The Information Age. Why? The obvious answer: anything and everything you want to know is at your fingertips (via cellphone or computer). Of course you need to have access to the internet through a device, but that is a rare sight to see. Now a days, people can not live without technology. Those would be the worst times.

Hiking?

handheld-gps

More than likely you planned your trip using the internet – maps – or a smart device such as cell phone or another GPS specific device. Odds are also likely, you are carrying one on your hike. At least for safety reasons, if something bad happens you can call for help.

Camping?

charging while camping

If your camp site is not near a power outlet, you will more than likely take a trip somewhere to charge whatever vice you brought with you. Did I say vice? Sorry, I meant device, but then again if you are addicted what is the difference? A charge to it or the withdrawal from it dying. That is my take on it anyway.

What are you up to?

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Let everyone know or not. The power of social media! You can post how you are feeling. You can ask questions. Maybe show people what is going on. The choice is ours as individuals. To share or to read/watch that of what others share. Another reason to consider this the Information Age. As there is not much you cannot find on the internet.

I am not judging. I would be a hypocrite if I was judging. After all, how would I be typing this? How would you be reading this? Clearly I am “for” technology (even social media). There are times, though, that I wish I could walk away or “disconnect” as some people put it. There are reasons I do not though… Such as the better side of our advanced technology.

Cell Phones (old models)Lots of phones

I am away from my family on business. With technology, I do not have to feel like I am away. My family can check on me or I can check on them whenever we want to connect as a family. The other day I heard that some really close family friends were moving away and that my parents were at their going away. Lucky for me, I was able to call and connect with my parents via a Video Chat and I was able to see and say my “farewells” to my family friends. I also got to see some other amazing people on that call and it was definitely one of my happier moments since I left because of my job.

 

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I Wish I was Home

 

There is a lot more I wish to say about technology, but I am a little concerned. I have a lot going on. Technology has become a giant blessing and an enormous curse in my life and situation. I am trying to make the most of my situation, but I am stuck. It has been a while since I have written so I wanted to cover something that would help me focus but also allow me to seek advice from my audience, in this case from you.

Down to brass tacks:

One of the things I want to focus on is building an income and monetizing my use of the internet. Whether it be from Blogging, Vlogging, Playing Games, or any other activity that could possibly build me an income. Right now, that is one of the other blessings I hope to turn to for the better of my future.

Since I have this blog – tell me what you want to read. Tell me more of what you would like to see. I love to use my mind – whether I am dissecting a problem, analyzing a situation or just discussing my views on something (which unfortunately, often, leads to fights or arguments).

I am considering starting up a Vlog. If I do, you will see that link come here soon. I just have not been able to think of what I should make it about. Maybe it will be something general and vague. I might just read a children’s book, as best as I can at least (beneficial for my kids back home at least). <— probably going to become a reality on the forefront. I miss my kids.

 

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P.S.

  • Thank you for reading this far.
  • Please drop me a note in the comments or send me a message with ideas or let me know if you are up for a chat/discussion/debate or any other form of communication.
  • I am hoping to improve my social life.
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Super Easy Way To Start Vlogging Today

my-10-favourite-gary-vaynerchuk-quotes-16-638What’s going on guys! James Cortez here, from The Projct. Thanks for stoppin by to read this. I promise to pay you back by providing you with some value on this blog post. Today, I hope to possibly convince you to start vlogging….immediately. Vlogging, to me, is a very intriguing concept. It requires minimal effort, but offers insurmountable returns for your future. So that is my goal. To get you to start. Like literally, as soon as you finish reading this, I want you to start a vlog. 

Do you have a phone with a camera? Are you a living, breathing human being? If you happened to answer yes to these two questions, then you qualify to start vlogging. Don’t make it complicated. In fact, simplicity is the key. My man Gary Vee (Founder/CEO of Vaynermedia) says it best: “Document, don’t create.” What does this mean? It means very simply, pick up your phone, turn on your camera, and start recording. You don’t need to be a creative person. You don’t need to go to a giant event. You don’t need an intricate plan on how you’re going to execute your vlog. You just need your camera and yourself, and to start documenting.

It means Joe Shmo down the street, who is literally documenting his life through a phone lens and then posting it on FREE social media platforms [Youtube, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, etc.] is WINNING. He’s getting his work and ideas out there, getting seen by companies and brands, and even creating HIS own personal brand. How? Because all he has to do is share his thoughts and ideas with the world. Thoughts and ideas that he owns. Like really, they’re his! His life experiences… they’re his! What he believes in, and what he’s passionate about…also his! All he has to do is share them with the world through documentation of his everyday life. He isn’t crippled by the thought of having to “create” something that may or may not go anywhere. Then get butt-hurt, because no one gave a crap about the super amazing thing that he created. No, he isn’t crippled by that thought.

But so many people are. So many people can never start, because of the fear of flopping [among other things that I won’t even mention]. The fear that it wont work out. Or the fear that other people will laugh at something they created. So they’ll forever talk about wanting to start something. And they’ll talk, and they’ll analyze, and they’ll talk, and they’ll research, and they’ll talk some more… but they will never start. And we all know those people. Or maybe you’re one of them. This is sometimes referred to as “Paralysis by Analysis”. Being frozen, because of over-thinking. Well good news, my friends, “documenting” instead of “creating” negates this fear, like no other. When you document, all you’re doing is living your life. Would you be afraid of living your life? How much easier could it get??? Let me make it even easier for you! Here’s exactly how you should start:

Beginning:

  • For the rest of the day, have your camera (phone) on hand. (Should be pretty easy).
  • Say “hi” to your new vlog! Introduce yourself. Tell your vlog what kind of stuff you like. Talk about a couple things going on in your life currently. (Again super easy. Doesn’t have to be long. 1-2 minutes will do).

During:

  • Go about your day. (I’m gonna say it one last time: super easy).
  • Record 30-60 second clips of things you do through out the day.
  • Anytime you change locations, let your vlog know.

Finish:

  • At the end of your day, dump all your clips into a FREE movie editor. [Examples: on Mac use “iMovie”; on Window use “MovieMaker”; on mobile devices use “VideoEditor”)
  • Create (yes, at this point you ARE “creating”) a 3-5 minute movie of your day.
  • Post the movie on Youtube, Facebook, or Instagram, etc. (I recommend posting the full movie on Youtube, and teasers on all other platforms).

And voila! You just created your first vlog post! All you did was go about your day like you were going to either way, but this time you recorded parts of it. And let’s face it, you would’ve done THAT for your Snapchat or IG stories anyways. But now you have a vlog. Rinse and repeat.

Well, I’m gonna keep this short. I told you HOW you could start vlogging today with MINIMAL effort. But why should you? WHAT DO YOU GET OUT OF IT? That’s the question everybody wants answered, right? Well, I have the answers to that here: Why You Should Start Vlogging Today | 3 Reasons . Watch this video, and you will absolutely want to start vlogging today. And so, I will leave you with this:

“Ideas are shit.  Execution is the game.”

                                                                              -Gary Vee [on the importance of taking action]

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Society Today: Maybe Somebody Reading this can help/do Something About it.

Why is it, that when you want to get a job that is worth something decent… you need to have a paid education? If you want to be a lawyer, Law Degree. If you want to be a Doctor, medical Degree. Common sense says, because you are paying for the education and practice, you are mastering the field. Which, logically makes sense. Until you get to a situation like the one I am in.

Forewarning, this may be very tangent filled and/or I may break off into many different paths, but the end goal is the same. To open up the “Why” factor in my readers. Meaning if you have an answer, tell me. If you’re stumped like I am, then lets brainstorm this together. Now, I plan on giving my backstory, but in bits and pieces so as to help with the “follow-along” with my chain of thought.

First bit, I am divorced and I do not get very much time with my children. A judge decided what was best per her bias and her power to do so. In my marriage, I read a few different books to try to better myself and my thinking to help my marriage and that clearly failed. Now I am reading books to try to better my thinking to help me cope with many of my stressors (lacking time with my children being one of the big ones). I do attend therapy to help me redirect my thinking and to try to better myself and my therapist has given me a book title that she referred and I bought it to try out.

Now, I am allowed Skype visits with my children 4 to 5 times per week (every other Sunday). This is one of the provisions that the judge decreed to allow me to “bond” with my children. The purpose to give them a sense of their dad still being in their lives. What their mother and the judge failed to comprehend in this, is that a video call holds no bond with a child. Not only did I know this, but I tried to get my kids for more time with me. I failed.

More backstory: I suffer clinical depression and was originally diagnosed in 2012 while I was deployed. At the time, I felt that: my home unit hated me, my local unit hated me and was being goaded by my home unit to hate me, so as to give me the sense of needing to separate from our great United States Air Force. I was called a Liar and anything that I said to my “Superiors” was to not be trusted. Fast-forward to 2013 when I return to home-station and continue my therapy and medicine for treatment of clinical depression… I meet my soon to be future wife/ex-wife. Now looking back, I think I was gaslighted from the beginning because in our marriage she joked with me about how our first week of getting acquainted… she “hated” me. Well, there were indeed a TON of Red-Flags, but how does a guy with depression and mental scars holding him back see said flags, when the woman is instead making him feel special.

This is where “the book” comes into play, that my current therapist had recommended I read. This book is called “Is it Love or is it Addiction”. This book has opened my eyes to many new theories and thoughts on how we operate as people. Now, the first major thought is: “Why is a judge (with a law degree) making life altering decisions for children? Does she have a psychology degree? Does she have a sociology degree? How is it that a woman with no regard for human development is the one making a ‘what’s best for the children’ call?”. Now, this deep thought was stirred by something I read in the book today and my Skype visit with my children.

What I read: children, at infant stage, develop a NEED for their parent(s). When they cry and a parent responds, that response maps how the child will develop. If the parent reacts accordingly and applies love and tenderness to the cry, the child develops a sense of belonging and it teaches them (at a cellular level) what ‘Unconditional love’ is. IF the child cries and is met with rage or is ignored, it teaches the child that it is not okay to cry; it is not okay to NEED; and it is wrong of them to expect anything from others.

How my call went: My son, who did not speak to me on the previous Skype visit; spent 90% of the call ignoring me. Being silent and just playing/fidgeting with his hands, while he stood in front of the couch where the computer was set. He did not respond to me calling out his name. He did not acknowledge my existence. Why is this? Because in his basic NEED for ME he has been neglected by the courts. He knew me as “Mommy” almost two years ago and now I don’t even get to hold him.

How is this relevant: my son, who knew me as “mommy” for the last year of his life that I was physically a part of… developed that knowledge of me because when he cried or shouted for mommy and was met with nothing, and would do it over and over until I would respond… it taught him that I was “Mommy” and any needs that he would want from “mommy” should be met by me. Now, that physical bond with him has diminished because I have not been able to hold him in over 6 months now, before then I was only allowed 18 days with him and my daughter (whom is able to receive love/attention fulfillment from anyone). Before those 18 days, it was a whole year (which I spent 10 of those months in South Korea – going back to the “gaslighted” feeling).

To fill in the major bit of “Gas lighted” feeling, as well as grant me some catharsis, I feel I was tricked into going to South Korea so that my (ex) wife could powerplay the courts, as well as hurt me in the process by removing me from my children (which she knew was a huge part of my life). How could I be tricked? Well, she and I were both in the USAF and had a contract filled out that stated if one of us gets orders somewhere, then the other needs orders to the same place. So after many nights of her telling me how much she hated being stationed where we were and she wanted to go else where for once because she didn’t enlist just to be stationed at home… she finally came up with the idea “hey, why don’t we put ‘All overseas’ on our dreamsheet?”. What this means, is that it shows the Air Force that TWO airmen are eager to go to ONE base overseas. For the Air Force, this is a huge win because now it means they don’t have to be the bad guy and MAKE someone go. So, shortly thereafter (about a month later if I recall) we got pinged with orders. South Korea! “This is great news because one of the benefits of Korea is that we get our choice of follow-on!” – she came up with, though this was after her appearance of let down and grief because it wasn’t what she had “wanted”; which she never eluded to what that was… but now, my Orders for November 2017 arrival and hers for February 2018; hey this means our kids won’t be a whole year without parents AND they’ll get to spend a lot of time with grandma and grandpa! Well, we filled out our follow-on dreamsheets, she had told me how much she LOVED Nebraska and really hoped we would get picked for Offutt. My home state and my home town which she knew I was dying to get back home to. So she and I researched all of the bases in Nebraska and the neighboring states to try to increase our chances of coming to the Midwest. We got selected for Kansas. Fast forward a few months to my last month home before leaving… my wife is in class for her promotion so she’s not spending any time with me or our kids… the first weekend of her class she tells me they’re having a study group… and then she spends 2 hours doing her make-up, her hair, and picking out an outfit… to which I do not get to talk with her about my concern until she returns, which gets pretty heated but ultimately results in her still not talking to me. I’m 3 weeks away from getting on a plane and being away from my family and I am nervous and uncomfortable and my wife is not talking to me, but is always giggling at her phone because her classmates are so funny… my last few days with her and she isn’t saying a word to me. She told me what she wanted was for me to stop talking, to listen to her, and be less quick to anger…. well, I’ve already gone a month without her honestly talking to me… so the last days with her and I was to quit talking and to listen to her {silence}. Cut me deep and it was difficult to not be angry… I am about to get on a plane for her and this is how she has been treating me…

Well, the only way for me to leave Korea “early” was to separate from the Air Force. My wife and I had talked about it in our marriage. She knew I didn’t want to stay in but yet she managed to talk me into extending my contract with the Air Force a whole year just so that I could Accept the orders to Korea. Where I feel EXTREMELY stupid looking back… is if I had let my contract end on time, then our marriage would no longer hinder us from getting an assignment else where sooner. Anyway, I got out a couple months sooner than the WHOLE year that I had promised the Air Force I would do. I came home to Nebraska where she had been telling me that she was dying to get to. But used it in the courts to say I abandoned our children by not returning to Washington. Considering I was quitting the Air Force, she would not allow me to stay with her and I did not have a vehicle there… how was I supposed to survive AND be there for my children? Instead I came back to my home where my folks welcomed me with open arms, and welcomed my children for the 18 days I was allowed to have them.
My children no longer get physical time with me, they only get screen time with me and I’ve been watching my bond with them die more and more over the last two years. It’s a very painful experience.

Abrupt Ending.

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Book Ideas

How many times has an idea popped into one’s head? How frequent has the urge to write it down come up? Would it be bad to turn these thoughts and feelings into a book? Guess I will find out when I finish my book.

I have considered writing a couple different stories. I started a fictional story and I was excited to write it. I was using my favorite band/albums as inspiration and I was going to include important people as important characters. However, life happened and I lost a lot of my desires and my important people.

Now I am working on a “Based on a True Story” type of novel. Just trying to balance the plot, the timeline, and the characters. As well as the length in the book vs making it a series type of story. I am thinking I might use this forum to broadcast a bit about it/them as I go on to see what type of feedback I get and maybe further ideas. Also, doing this here will help me get out of myself about it all.

Thanks for reading this. I might even set up a poll later for book names! Keep an eye out!

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Divorce: Prepare Before it is even a thought

If there was one thing I never thought I would go through, it is divorce. Not because I thought I was perfect, nor did I think my marriage was the most stable thing to exist. But because I loved my wife and thought that she loved me and I honestly thought that love would concur all.

It takes two to love. It takes two to make a marriage. It takes two to make it a partnership. If either person decides they no longer wish to pursue happiness together, then there is no longer a pair. Should you be prepared for divorce, going straight into marriage? Yes. Yes you should. I did not. I regret it more than the divorce itself.

It is one thing to have my love leave me. It is an entirely different thing to know that she is trying to get anyone/everyone to view me as a monster. The harsh reality of my marriage was that there were so many people that called me a monster and it saddened me each time, but she was there telling me that those people were wrong and that I should not let them get to me. Until my date in court when I heard her mimic all the people that she had told me over the years to ignore, when deep down she was just adding it all up to attack me with.

What I wish I had done from day one of marriage: Journal. Journaling is not only therapeutic, but it is actually a very good testament in divorce court. If a person is to “date stamp” their journal, this adds an extra layer of protection from “hearsay” in court. I highly recommend Journaling EVERYTHING. The good. The bad. The stupid fights. The lazy actions (of both yourself and/or your partner). If I had been doing this from the get-go, I would know that my behavior had been in check my whole marriage (the therapeutic side of journaling), and I would be able to show the courts how much of her story was true and how much of it was false based on the journal’s timeline.

When a moment of small arguments and bickering had occurred, I wish I had journaled it. To show that I was not the monster that started the argument nor was I the one to finish it. I also wish I could show them how I never did “control” the finances. I took responsibility of our bills, our spending, and even monitored our credit to ensure that we had a bright future ahead of ourselves. Now, I am waiting for the judge’s verdict on whether she will/will not give me full-custody of my children. These days, it is starting to sound like fathers are developing a chance in these types of cases.

With this divorce having been going on for almost a year, I have been neglectful of my blog. I am hoping to change that now. My divorce hearing is finished, however I am still married, until the judge tells me what her decision is. If I had it my way, I would have both of my kids. If I were to do as my (ex)wife and I had discussed (regarding his book).

While I am waiting for this divorce to be completed, I need to get back to going to the gym Mon-Friday. I also need to figure out a good workout routine to ensure that I am getting fit and constantly improving. I will start using my Advocare Products too to ensure that I am getting the nutrition I need, but also to allow me to share with other people so that I can introduce it to new people or new people to it… First stop: Energy Adovare’s Spark… Second Stop: Protein (recovery) Powder Muscle Gain

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Returning from a long break.

It’s always easy to take a break. It is never easy to pick up and start again. Especially when everything seems to add extra weight and each step gets heavier.

I took an extended break. Now, I’m ready (hopefully) to get back on this horse and try again. The reason I have been gone so long, it’s rather personal. At this time, I will not actually talk about it, but I do wish to reflect on it with you.

Hardship and adversity are some of the biggest stressors in life. At least as a dynamic duo. Face them individually and they are a cake walk. Yet face them simultaneously, and you will wish you were in bed curled up in the fetal position (if you don’t already wish for that).

Every day has been a new struggle for me. Every day is a struggle for me.

I miss my kids every day, and everyday I have to remind myself that they are happy. They are strong and resilient. I have to remind myself that one day, I will be with my kids again.

Please keep your head up high and remember that you’re the most special person there is. There is only one you. If you are in need of a lesson or if you wish to have some true enlightening; look for Mr. Rogers’ tv show. He is one of the best teachers of all time.

“I like you just the way you are.”-Mr Rogers.

Keep learning, keep growing, and above ALL else… KEEP moving forward. Even if that means failing forward (by John C. Maxwell).

Thanks for reading.

Patrick

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Paranoia to Mononoia

This piece is strictly opinion and as you can tell from the title: Made-up.

Paranoia is the delusion that someone or something is out to get you, wrong you, or just plain mess with you. No, that is not an exact definition. But the point I would like to make, is the pivot point or focal point. You (or myself) are the focal point. Which then pivots into the fear of others around you. What you think: they think of you, are planning to do to or against you, or maybe that they’re avoiding you.

Mononoia (Mono-noia)- is a word I made up for dramatic emphasis on self-focus. Instead of thinking: “what are they…” it becomes “what am I…”. Now, if Paranoia is a delusional state of mind, wouldn’t that make Mononoia the same category? Sure. But why is that “bad”. At least in this delusional state you’re self driven. Maybe this could even be used as a vehicle to drive you to, hopefully, improvement! Like any vehicle, bad things can happen; but you have the control to make yourself happen.

What do I mean, if I am making things up, when I say Paranoia to Mononoia? Ultimately, my goal is to mean that if I am making the transition I now what to know what I am thinking about me. I want to know what I am going to do about me. I want to impress myself so I don’t think less of myself afterwards. Sounds silly, doesn’t it? Yet I’ve always been worried about everyone else except myself. Now it’s my turn to make that change. Impress myself and live for me.

The best part of all of this? I made up a word, and I did it for me. Go ahead and tell me how dumb it sounds, I won’t care. I don’t need you to make me a pair (para-). I just need to be happy with myself, mono.

Thanks for reading and maybe you can tell me about your future experience with Mononoia.

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Feeling Watched

I recently discovered something. Something that isn’t new, yet I was surprised I hadn’t noticed it before. Before I go much further, this post is about Facebook profile settings. I am telling you this now in case you don’t have a Facebook, no need to read further unless to further educate your friends who may use Facebook.

So, I try to keep my personal account private and I try to keep my friends list as clean as people I know, or at the very least people I communicate through networking. Occasionally I will get a friend request that appears shady, to say the least. When I do get these requests, I have a habit of sitting on them for a day or two to see if they disappear and typically they do. 

A long time ago, so it feels, I had two friend requests show up, but they never disappeared. But oh well, right? Recently, I was looking at my “About me” section and noticed an option to view my “Following me” list. I knew I could follow someone and someone could follow me (in other words, keep track of someone and their posts). What I didn’t know was that there was a place to view my followers. Come to find out, the two friend requests I never accepted have been on my follow list. No clue how much of my stuff they’ve been able to see or monitor. I almost got the feeling they were people of my past who wanted to keep an eye on me without me knowing.

So, that’s my word of caution. You may never know who is watching you and what you say and do. Let alone, for how long. Maybe you should check yours out and see if there are any people “following you” that you didn’t know where or that you don’t want keeping tabs on you. 

Good luck and safe journey.

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Feeling Watched

I recently discovered something. Something that isn’t new, yet I was surprised I hadn’t noticed it before. Before I go much further, this post is about Facebook profile settings. I am telling you this now in case you don’t have a Facebook, no need to read further unless to further educate your friends who may use Facebook.

So, I try to keep my personal account private and I try to keep my friends list as clean as people I know, or at the very least people I communicate through networking. Occasionally I will get a friend request that appears shady, to say the least. When I do get these requests, I have a habit of sitting on them for a day or two to see if they disappear and typically they do. 

A long time ago, so it feels, I had two friend requests show up, but they never disappeared. But oh well, right? Recently, I was looking at my “About me” section and noticed an option to view my “Following me” list. I knew I could follow someone and someone could follow me (in other words, keep track of someone and their posts). What I didn’t know was that there was a place to view my followers. Come to find out, the two friend requests I never accepted have been on my follow list. No clue how much of my stuff they’ve been able to see or monitor. I almost got the feeling they were people of my past who wanted to keep an eye on me without me knowing.

So, that’s my word of caution. You may never know who is watching you and what you say and do. Let alone, for how long. Maybe you should check yours out and see if there are any people “following you” that you didn’t know where or that you don’t want keeping tabs on you. 

Good luck and safe journey.